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November 21st, 2006 at 04:09 am

I’ve been reading the forum and a couple of the blogs for a while now so it is time to jump in.

I am a mid-30’s woman. DH is early 40’s. We’ve been married just short of ten years. In exactly two weeks I will have my last day of work. My department has been eliminated because of a corporate merger. I had a well paying job that more than provided for a decent living. I am not sad to be losing this job; it is time to move on. I have known about my termination for almost a year. In this time I have started to think about my financial situation and about the accomplishments I have achieved and areas where I could do better. Notice I say ‘I’. That’s because DH has very little to do with our finances.

Debt:
1. Started with student loan debt of 30,000. Now it is down to just under 5,000.
2. Purchased house for 127,000. Balance = 94000. 11 years remaining.
3. Purchased and still paying for a car. Balance = 11800

That’s the liabilities side. At the moment I am too shy to give the asset side of the equation. I am pleased with my assets but I am really looking back at the past ten years and I am beginning to realize how much more I could have done. This is depressing for me when I think about how much money I have wasted.

What is also frustrating for me is that I can’t get DH on board. He is not overly extravagant but at the same time I feel he spends too much on stuff that is not necessary. I make much more than he does and yet I am the frugal one? Here’s a great example that just happened. We have used the same brand of salon hair products since we’ve been together and it is more expensive than what you’d buy at a discount store. Thanks to the freebies section of this site I recently received a shampoo and conditioner sample pack. That little pack lasted me four days! I was on the phone to DH tonight. He frequently stays at hotels. I asked if the hotel room came with the shampoo bottles and could he please bring them home to me. His response: “Are we that hard up?”

Oh… I am hoping this blog doesn’t turn into one long rant about DH, but right now his attitude is really frustrating me given our upcoming financial situation in light of the fact that I am going to be unemployed on December 1 and may not want to return to work for 6 months, 9 months, 12 months.

Aside from that venting, I am here to learn and share. I believe taking little steps can really make a difference overall. Using a $1.00 coupon here or there, cutting back on this or that, finding a good interest rate. I am also looking at ways to take my assets to the next level.

15 Responses to “Intro 1”

  1. yummy64 Says:
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    Welcome to the group!

  2. Thrifty Ray Says:
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    Welcome! You have stumbled on to a wonderful, supportive group here!

  3. janH Says:
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    Welcome, welcome. There are like-minded people here!

  4. PRICEPLUS Says:
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    Welcome aboad! The folks here are very supportive and there are more money saving ideas here than you can imagine! Again, welcome!Smile

  5. LuckyRobin Says:
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    Welcome aboard.

  6. rduell Says:
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    Welcome! This is a great group of people.

  7. tinapbeana Says:
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    nice to have you here daylily! you'll find lots of 'spouses of spenders' here, myself included. best thing i've found is to say i'd rather save moeny now so i won't have to worry about it later...

  8. paigu Says:
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    Welcome! We're always glad to help.

  9. Broken Arrow Says:
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    Welcome to the madhouse, daylily. Smile
    So much to say in that one entry.

    First, I am glad that you are taking your job loss in stride. I hope that I can do that when that day comes.

    Second, I think your liabilities are in pretty decent shape. Again, I hope I can accomplish the same as well. Big Grin

    I can certainly relate about regretting the lost time when I could have advanced much further financially. Moreover, I can most definitely relate to having a spouse who is not on board.

    In short, you're in good company. Wink

  10. Ima saver Says:
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    Welcome, glad you have joined us. You will find lots of good advice on this forum.

  11. Aleta Says:
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    Welcome daylilly. I have the same situation as you and probably your frustration comes from feeling as if you are the only one that is sacrificing and that your DH doesn't appreciate what you do. I've had to give up on what he thinks and do what I can do because it will be us that picks up the most pieces when things go wrong. Son't worry about what you didn't do and only look at what you're doing now. I wish that my light bulb would have come on in my thirties like you. It happened to me in my 40's. So, we all look back regardless of where you are in life. I think you're doing great and especially about the 11 years left on your mortgage. That's great. Congratulations.

  12. fairy74 Says:
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    Welcome daylily Smile

  13. moneycents Says:
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    Welcome Daylily! I kind of got the message of spending less and saving more when I was in my mid 30's. I think when you are just out of school and have your first job there is a feeling of entitlement when you are spending money. As you get older those same things you were spending on ...they just don't seem as important, When you get older your priorities change and so does your way of thinking. My husband wasn't on board with me at all. He is a big spender or I should say was. Recently he has gotten on board. Some miracles happen over time!

  14. fern Says:
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    welcome aboard.

  15. daylily Says:
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    Thanks to all for the warm welcome

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